4 Ways for Every Family to Have Victory Over Pornography

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This is one of the least talked about major problems in the world, including in the local church. I’m talking about porn.


William M. Struthers is a Christian biopsychologist who is specially trained to give the physical and spiritual reasons for pornography addiction. In his book, Wired for Intimacy, he says that as we “fall deeper into the mental habit of fixating on these images, the exposure to them creates neural pathways. Like a path is created in the woods with each successive hiker, so do the neural paths set the course for the next time an erotic image is viewed. Over time these neural paths become wider as they are repeatedly traveled with each exposure to pornography. They become the automatic pathway through which interactions with women are routed. . . . . They have unknowingly created a neurological circuit that imprisons their ability to see women [and men] rightly as created in God’s image.”[i]


  1. Be humble

The last thing anyone reading this needs to say is, “Well that’s not an issue for me or my family.” Every one of us need to be humble and realize that we are susceptible to fall into temptation at any point


1 Corinthians 10:12 says, Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall.


There’s freedom in knowing, understanding, and acting towards our weaknesses. Pride leads to destruction.


Now, who’s in a better spot? Someone who says, “I’ll never have an issue” or “I could have an issue”?


Parents/Grandparents: Don’t be naïve. Don’t say, “There’s no way my son/grandson could struggle with porn.” Have humility and recognize that any and everyone can be snatched by this Satan-sent trap.


2. Be honest and repent

Be honest with Yourself. Most people are not fully honest with themselves. Don’t deny, minimize, normalize, or rationalize.


Be honest with God. Ask God for help. This brings healing and maturing.


Be honest with your spouse. Your spouse needs to know what happens in your life and needs to know you have repented. Confess where you’re struggling. How much detail you share is important. Too much detail could cause them to be haunted for life. Too little detail could cause their mind to wander.


3. Flee personally


I’m writing to people today who are all over the map. I’m writing to people ranging from those who are addicted to those who’ve never seen one pornographic image.


There’s really no difference in what I’m talking about today. Everyone is susceptible to sexual immorality through pornography.


The point is, whether you’re 14 years old or 64 years old, you’ve got to flee from sexual immorality à pornography. This is an individual decision to get out of the situation.


1 Corinthians 10:13 says, No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.


God will always allow an open door of escape when it comes to temptation. For example, many of you need to turn off and/or get rid of your TV, computer, or phone.


4. Choose Jesus

He’s always better. It really is a choice every time we bend to temptation


Some of you are at a fork in the road of your life. Will you choose sin or choose Jesus? Think about that every time you turn on a TV or computer.


Don’t sugarcoat it – you are choosing to look upon naked people and therefore fall outside of the bounds of sex in God’s plan, therefore finding yourself in sin.


Porn brings:

  • Shame
  • Guilt
  • Pain
  • Warped view of sex


Jesus brings:

  • Freedom
  • No guilt
  • Healing
  • Right view of sex


In conclusion, you can have freedom in repentance. You can have hope in repentance. Tell somebody today.


[i] William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2009), 85.

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